Sequin Romper: Misguided from Nordstrom
Scrappy Nude Heels: Steve Madden
Drop Necklace: Marika from Boutique Fawn
Black Wool Jacket: Zara (similar here)
Let’s talk about holiday parties. We love them, we hate them and as women we typically panic about what to wear to them. I’ve broken down our main issues – and, yes, even I go through the “what to wear” obsession.
A women’s mind when dressing for a holiday party:
- “How dressy do I go?” Are sparkles too much, do I wear floor length, is everyone going to be in casual cocktail wearing flats if I wear heels? Can I wear pants? What on earth do you wear with pants?
- “Is this too sexy?” My boss has never seen me in anything other than jeans and a flowing top, do I really need to let him in on the fact that I have a waistline?
- “Is this too fashionable or edgy?” or my favorite “Is this a bit much?” We are basically afraid of standing out in a room, good or bad, because no one wants to be the topic of conversation over coffee Monday morning from our co-worker or our conservative Aunt.
- “Dude, it’s really cold out!” So you put on the faux fur coat that you bought on discount thinking it would be the perfect dressy winter coat. You know, the one you’ve tried on in your bedroom 6 times but never actually left the house in. Then you take it off yet again, because “it’s a bit much.” So you put on your go-to black wool coat, a pair of tights and booties and convince yourself you are doing it because it adds to the look not because of the impending fear of frostbite. Off you go!
- Then, of course, there is the plus one issue. No one ever wants to be the embarrassing plus one at someone else’s party. Whether it’s a work party, dinner with friends, or family gathering, no one wants to be “that girl.” We have all seen her, we have all judged her and if we were nice we did it subtly. I like to think I’m one of the nice women out there, and even I have thought: “Oh man, that’s a bit much isn’t it.”
Now, because of what I do for a living, I’ve avoided my own office holiday party over the years. Yet somehow, every year, I end up being the plus one to any and all of my friends that don’t want to show up to their party alone. To be honest, I kind of love it. There is no pressure on me to do anything other than not make too much of a bad impression. And I get to meet great people outside of my network, play dress up for a night AND the best part of all, report back to you on what to wear to each of these types of events. This year, I’m single come holiday season. The bad part, being a 30 year old single woman at Christmas time kind of sucks in a lot of ways. Don’t get me started on how we aren’t allowed to buy an extra plane ticket and fill in the name later. You are seriously killing me airlines. Good news: I’m once again the token single friend of the holidays which has left me with not just 1 invite but 7 of them. Dinner parties with potential set ups, office parties when their boyfriend is out of town, big ticket events where you wear sparkly mini dresses and dance the night away, I’m in for them all.
This year I did something a little different, I pre-planned my holiday outfits. Usually, I just buy something last minute or impulsively shop a friend’s closet; but this year I made a game plan. 7 parties in two weeks neccesitated it. Then I took it a step further, I documented it for you. So over the next two weeks, we are going to do a holiday dressing guide over here at 5 o’clock and hopefully I can give you some insights from the perspective of the “outsider” along the way. Let’s get started.
Holiday Party 1:
What and where: Girls dinner and drinks downtown to exchange gifts before the chaos of the holidays begins.
What I wore: A sparkly romper and scrappy nude heels. And a basic black wool coat because I was freezing and my faux fur was “too much.”
Why I chose it: Well, it’s been hanging in my closet for a year, this is the least conservative and most flexible dress code I have all season AND it allowed me the flexibility to meet up with a date post dinner (you know – just in case).
How did it go: Pretty perfectly. Sparkles are NOT my thing. My ex hated them, and I didn’t love them to begin with so I kind of got used to the a no-sparkles closet. I don’t even want a diamond engagement ring, that’s how non-glittery I am. But, this romper somehow worked for me with a big thank you to my little sister who gave it to me for Christmas last year. The shorts and sleeves made it still feel a little boyish and casual yet the plunging necklace felt sexy. Also, the girls gave me great reviews and it has already been borrowed this holiday season. That’s always a win in my book.
Next up: A plus one date to a tech start-up’s rooftop holiday party. Wish me luck….
Until next time!